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Overview


Key Understanding:

When we understand and care about how another person feels, that's compassion.  We all have the ability to feel and use compassion.  Compassion is showing kindness as well as feeling it empathetically.  Sometimes compassion involves forgiveness.  It is as important that we use compassion with ourselves as it is that we use it with others.  The rain drop or tear drop is an understandable symbol of compassion.

Objectives:

  • To recognize that each of us is born with this gift.
  • To identify ways we use this gift.
  • To understand at least a small aspect of this gift experientially.
  • To see how applying this gift can enrich our lives.

Supplies:

Pre-K – Grade 1:
A copy of The Twelve Gifts of Birth
Treasure Chests, Treasure Cards from Lesson 1, crayons
Materials such as construction paper, markers, stamps, stickers, paints for letter writing or making greeting cards, as desired.

Grades 2 – 3:
A copy of The Twelve Gifts of Birth
Treasure Chests and Treasure Cards from Lesson 1, crayons or colored pencils
Materials such as construction paper, markers, stamps, stickers, paints for letter writing or making greeting cards, as desired.

Grades 4 – 6:
A copy of The Twelve Gifts of Birth
Student journals from Lesson 1


OPEN LESSON

Set stage for respect, trust, and discovery. Use cue.

ENGAGE THE LEARNER

Have students look at the 4-page section on compassion The Twelve Gifts of Birth. Read the text. “The fourth gift is Compassion. May you be gentle with yourself and others. May you forgive those who hurt you and yourself when you make mistakes.”

Pre K – Grade 1

Grade 2 – 3

Grades 4 – 6

Explain that today’s lesson is on compassion. Acknowledge that children may or may not be familiar with the word but they know what compassion is and they already use it in many ways. Another word for it is “kindness.” Focus attention on the photo of the two brothers. We don’t know for sure what happened but the younger brother seems to be offering comfort.

Acknowledge that students may or may not be familiar with the word compassion but point out that they do know what it is. It is kindness. Focus attention on the photos and ask for other words that seem to describe this gift. Ask for interpretations of the photo of the two brothers. Discuss what might have happened. How might the older boy feel? The younger boy?

Invite students to share initial ideas when they hear the word compassion. Ask: "What actions show compassion? What does compassion feel like? What other words are related to compassion?" Focus attention on the photo and text. Ask: "What might have happened? What might each boy be feeling?"



DEVELOP THE IDEAS

Pre K – Grade 1

Grades 2 – 3

Grades 4 – 6

Ask children to think of a time when they saw someone else feel sad, hurt, or embarrassed and they felt a caring feeling and wanted to help. It might have been a sibling at home, a friend at school, or a character in a story. Explain that feeling caring feelings for another is compassion. Every one has the ability to feel compassion and to act upon it.

Forgiveness is another aspect of compassion. Being kind and forgiving to ourselves and others helps us to feel happy and to be healthy.

Ask students to recall a time when they “felt” for another person who was hurt, sad, embarrassed, or confused. It may have been when someone was sick or a pet died. It might have involved people or animals in a real situation or one they saw in a movie or TV or read about in a story. Explain that compassion is feeling as if one knows how a person or character might be feeling because of our own personal experiences. If it was a real situation, ask students if they were able to offer comfort or help. Assure students that each of us has this gift. Explain that acting with compassion can help us to be happy and healthy and it can help us to make a difference in the lives of others.

Ask students to privately reflect and recall a time when they noticed that another person was sad, sorry, hurt, embarrassed, angry or confused, and they felt as if they were feeling what that person was feeling. Did they want to help? Was it a situation in which they could help in some way? Did they offer any comfort or help? Talk with them about the importance of the forgiveness aspect of compassion. In addition, talk with them about the importance of showing compassion to ourselves as well as to others. Discuss how using compassion might help us to be happy and healthy.

(Be aware that this lesson could be an especially sensitive one.)



EXPERIENCE AND APPLY THE LEARNING

Pre K – Grade 1

Grade 2 – 3

Grades 4 – 6

Have children make “thinking of you” greeting cards for residents at a local nursing home or for patients at a children’s hospital, or for a family in the community who is facing a hardship.

Have children find the compassion card in their treasure chest. Have them make the raindrop symbol above the word in a color they feel best represents compassion.  If time allows, have children draw a picture of themselves using compassion on the back of the card. Then have them place their card back in the chest.

Identify a person, family, or group of people in the community who might feel comforted by students’ expressions of kindness.  Have students write letters, make greeting cards, or do some other kind gesture for them. Or perhaps, through a community-sponsored program, work with students to send letters or cards to children in some other part of the world.

Have students make the compassion symbol on the compassion card, write “I have,” and either decorate the card or depict an experience they had using this gift.

Suggest that students perform a kind act before the end of the day.

Through brainstorming, identify many possible ways to use compassion toward other people, animals, the earth, and oneself. If time permits, develop plans for a future class project related to compassion—for example, a food drive, a collection of old towels for an animal shelter, litter removal, or a fund raiser for a local cause.

Have students write their thoughts and feelings about compassion in their journals.

Suggest that before the day is over, they do one, small, individual “random act of kindness” and keep it a secret.



SUMMARY AND EVALUATION

Review what was learned about compassion. If time allows, have students share understandings. Acknowledge that they have already been using compassion and that they will use it in many ways in the future. Remind them they will continue to explore the use of other gifts in upcoming lessons.

CLOSE LESSON - Create a ceremonial sense of having completed an important discovery. Use cue to end the lesson.    


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